Elopement Guide
Everything you need to know about eloping in 2022.
Eloping was once a secret act that involved a couple running away to get married, usually without their family’s consent or knowledge. These days, though, elopements can be highly coordinated affairs with plenty of planning and flair.
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What is an elopement?
Eloping typically refers to a small wedding that skips much of the formality and events typically found in an average wedding. It’s a means of getting married that can be done quickly and discreetly.
While once considered something only done in secret, elopements are now not an unusual choice for couples who want something intimate, low-key and budget-friendly. In fact, many are opting to plan an elopement attended by a handful of their closest loved ones without any hint of secrecy.
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Reasons to elope.
Family Matters
Weddings are often designed as an event where families can come together to celebrate. Of course, not all couples want to involve their families in their marriage, and in that case, they might choose to elope.
Money Concerns
Family isn’t the only reason to elope. Planning an elopement can be incredibly affordable, especially if a couple certifies their marriage at a courthouse instead of at a venue.
Intimate Event
Elopements can be intimate and romantic, and some couples prefer that. They don’t want to make a big show of the event, and would rather keep it private.
Life Circumstances
Life events can influence the decision to elope, whether a couple is expecting a baby, buying a home, deploying for active duty or opting to share medical insurance, there’s always a reason to elope.
Who to invite to an elopement.
In the past, an elopement would have no guests other than the officiant and a witness or two if necessary.
That said, a couple might choose to include their parents, siblings, and best friends. Total, an elopement will have fewer than 10 guests — more guests than that typically constitutes a micro wedding.
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How to plan an elopement.
Planning an elopement can be done in as little as a few days when needed. The most essential thing to do when planning to elope is to ensure you are going to be legally married at the end of the event.
Not all local government websites are created equal, so you may or may not be able to find the right information online. However, most local clerks’ offices have phone numbers you can call to confirm any information you need about eloping.
In most cases, you will need to apply for a marriage license with a government-issued ID before your elopement ceremony. Then, an authorized person will perform the ceremony, sign the documents and you can then file your completed marriage license with the court.
If you want more than just a bare-bones ceremony, then some more planning will be involved.
If marrying at a courthouse, keep in mind that some courthouses do not allow you to read your own vows or do not allow guests. You might also find that your courthouse performs marriages by appointment only, or on a first-come, first-served basis. Be sure to do your research so you know what to expect on the day.
Elopement Checklist
☑ Secure marriage license and all documentation needed to legalize your marriage
☑ Determine who your marriage officiant and witnesses will be, if necessary
☑ Choose a date and location for the ceremony
☑ Invite any guests who you would like to be present
☑ Book any travel accommodations, if applicable
☑ Book any vendors you would like, such as a photographer, florist or makeup artist
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FAQs about eloping.
Do elopements include a reception?
An elopement wedding may or may not include a reception, depending on the couples’ preference.
Because an elopement has so few guests, it is unlikely that a reception will look like your traditional event with catering and a dance floor. Instead, a reception for an elopement might look more like a special brunch or dinner.
That said, there’s no reason why a couple can’t have an intimate wedding ceremony and a large, extravagant reception. In that case, the couple may choose to delay the “party” for a later date, especially as the world is still facing the Coronavirus pandemic.
Do I need an elopement wedding dress or a nice suit?
A couple can wear jeans and t-shirts to get married or they can dress up in white-tie attire. It’s truly a personal choice.
Much of the decision will depend on the aesthetic you’re hoping to accomplish. If your ceremony is taking place in a picturesque location and you have a professional elopement photographer, you might want to take advantage of that by wearing formal attire.
Whatever you choose to wear, make sure you and your partner are on the same page so that you are both equally formal or casual.
Can I have a Maid of Honor/Best Man for an elopement?
Yes! While you don't have to include a wedding party in your elopement ceremony, you absolutely can.
What does the word elope mean?
The word elope has been in the English language for centuries. It comes from an old Dutch word meaning ‘to leap’ or ‘to run away from.’ It’s not surprising that this word has come to be synonymous with taking a leap of faith by running off to get married!
Tips for eloping.
Look for elopement packages.
Many companies offer all-inclusive elopement packages that can be hugely beneficial when it comes to taking away any questions of planning or logistics.
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Find popular places to elope.
You can, of course, elope in your own town. But you might also choose to go to another destination.
Stateside, many people choose to elope in national parks, such as Rocky Mountain National Park in Colorado, Sequoia National Park in California, or Yellowstone in Wyoming. These locations offer an abundance of natural beauty. Just be sure to contact the park to determine whether or not you need to make any special arrangements.
If you are eloping in another country, you will want to take steps to ensure your marriage will be legal when you return to your home country. If staying at a hotel or resort during your elopement, consider asking if they offer any marriage services to help ensure all of your pieces are in place.
Have a small wedding with a big audience.
Finally, just because you are having a small elopement doesn’t mean you can’t include your entire guest list. Using a virtual wedding service like LoveStream means that all of your friends and loved ones can help you celebrate your wedding.